Where do you plan to be in the next 5 years? Is she in that plan? Have you shared your goals and dreams with each other? Does she support yours, and do you support hers?
This doesn’t mean she knows 100% of everything you’ve ever done. It just means that you feel comfortable sharing it if it were to come up.
Try doing co-puttering activities, such as reading or watching TV in the same room. Make sure that you maintain your independence as well, such as by doing things on your own or with your friends. [3] X Research source
If your friends and family all don’t like a person, chances are she isn’t right for you. Remember that your friends know you well, and they’re looking out for your happiness, too. [5] X Research source
Ask yourself if you admire her. It is pretty important for couple to admire each-other. You need to like what she does and who she is in order to maintain a great relationship.
Long relationships are never easy, but the right woman will feel like she is easy to be with. This open comfort is often the only clue you need to know she’s right for you.
If you can’t have this or the following intelligent, but difficult, discussions with her at all then you already have your answer– she’s not right for you. [8] X Research source
What would she do if she won the lottery? In other words, where does she prioritize spending? Would she rather, in general, spend money on a slightly better life now or save that money for a better retirement later? If you were down on your luck financially (fired, sick, lower-paying job, etc. ), would she support you? Would you do the same thing for her?[9] X Research source
How important is it to life close to her family? To yours? Are there places she must be for her career? Are there places you must be for yours?
How often would you like to have sex? Are you willing to try new things, or do you like to keep things romantic and simple? If your sex drives don’t match up, how can you make sure you’re both happy?[10] X Research source
Do you both want kids? If so, how many? Do you see yourself getting married at some point and “settling down,” or is that still too far in the future? Does this line up with her? If a parent gets sick or needs support, are you okay with supporting them or having them move in?
Ask yourself about the “big picture” things, not the small facts: would she ever go camping or does she need to love the city,? Does she spend money freely or save frequently? Are their hobbies you feel like your special someone must share with you? Don’t think of this so much as a checklist for women to reach as much as a map to help your find people you’re compatible with.
It is important for you to admire and respect her and off course like her for who she is. And if she is the one you used to dream about when you were a little boy then you are good to go.
Accepting and openness to your hobbies/interests that you don’t share. Willingness to try new things with you, or learn about your interests/hobbies. Does not try to convince you that they are “right,” and accepts differing viewpoints. You feel comfortable being yourself, not trying to think of the “perfect” thing each time. [11] X Research source
A date should not be well-researched and “perfect. " That’s what the date is for – seeing if she actually is the right one moving forward.
