For example, if your partner brings up something about their ex every time you see them, they are likely still hung up on them.
If you inquire about their past relationship and your partner responds by saying something like “I don’t want to talk about it,” they are still holding on to something.
Look for phrases like “You are so much better at that than my ex” or “My ex always hated that. ”
Warning signs can be things like your partner doing favors for their ex or remaining in contact with them.
Let your partner know that their ex’s items bother you and ask them to either donate the items or return them. If they refuse to part with the items, you know that there are still some feelings.
You should always respect your partner’s privacy and not access their social media or email accounts without their permission.
You might say things like “It really bothers me when you talk to your ex” or “The fact that we always see your ex makes me feel insecure in this relationship. ”
You might say something like “I’m concerned that you are still in love with your ex” or “Do you still have feelings for your ex?” For any new relationship to be successful there needs to be a strong foundation of trust. If you see signs that your partner is too focused on their ex, tell them how you feel. It is okay, and appropriate to ask your partner to step back from engaging in conversations with their ex, and to place more focus on you and your relationship. If your partner is trustworthy and there is no concern, then your partner should respond to this request willingly and without hesitation.
You might say something like “I think we need to take a break until you figure out your feelings for your ex” or “I can’t be with someone who is in love with someone else. ”